Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

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Casey Kettleson

By Casey Kettleson in Culture Features
on July 29, 2010

Yesterday, Olivier Zahm wrote about his recent break-up with Natacha Ramsay on Purple Magazine's blog, Purple Diary. Man, breaking up is hard to do.

Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

I am lucky to be in a wonderful relationship with a man I truly respect and adore, but I've certainly had my fair share of torrid affairs and horrible breakups. I've sat dripping wet and naked in the corner of my shower and cried for hours. I've written and sent painfully long emails and left plenty of sobbing voicemails. I've had my heart broken into little tiny pieces at least three times and sincerely hope that others will never have to feel the same pain as I did (although most definitely will).

Although we're not avid followers of Purple Diary, we do visit the blog at least once every couple of weeks (Zahm's photos are rather compelling) and felt a wave of pity come over us as we read the following entry titled, End of Love:

Dear Friends

To all the anonymous friends who follow my life on the Purple Diary, I have to tell you that I’m in a lot of pain. Natacha Ramsay dumped me on Sunday. She ran away with her lover (with whom she has had a long romance that I was aware of and accepted) for a summer of love. She called me to tell me that she loves him, that we are finished. I asked her to come back two times and she said no two times. As you know if you follow the Purple Diary I try to create and promote an alternative love lifestyle (that I used to call in French La Communauté des Amants). Natacha’s decision to leave me so brutally and painfully will certainly be seen by conservative people as a clear feminine revenge against the lifestyle Natacha and I used to share, and think that I’m a dreamer. Right now I’m just a mess. But I will hopefully recover soon and offer you some more pictures of love and sex.

Olivier Zahm

Breaking up is an awful, terrible thing – especially if you're the one being dumped. Breaking up takes the joy out of everything. It ruins every song you've ever liked. It makes food taste like cardboard. It can even make big cities feel deserted. Breaking up completely consumes your life during the grieving process and then spits you back into the world a slightly changed person.

The only thing to do during a breakup is try to push through it and move on with your life. But how to do it? The commenters on Zahm's entry suggest everything from "Fuck the pain away!!!" to "So now just let her go as it meant to be... Stay sad for a while, as it seems we love to be brokenhearted as much as we love to be loved, so just think that it might be a source of inspiration for you! You have so many things to show and to write and no one will be able to take this from you..."

I usually get over break-ups and get my life StyledOn again thanks to good friends, lots of wine, coffee, crying, guacamole and a change on the weather – although new shoes and a vacation never hurt either.

How do you get over a break-up? When do you know that it's time to move on?

And FYI: Did you know that Marc Jacob's and Lorenzo Martone broke up also? That's news to us. We hope it was for the best and have to admit that we're curious to see how it may affect Jacob's designs for the next season...

http://www.purple-diary.com/post/871144781/dear-friends#idc-cover

6 Comments

  • hannpark05

    hannpark05 • over 1 year ago
    I've never broken up, but it sounds brutal. Sigh. I'm sure some i'd probably cope Gilmore Girls style aka with a pint of Ben & Jerry's and a really bad chick flick.

  • LeandraMedine

    LeandraMedine • over 1 year ago
    i pretty much don't know how to get over breakups so instead i get back under them. moving on isn't for everyone

  • Casey Kettleson

    Casey Kettleson • over 1 year ago
    Oh Leandra!!

  • natapoo

    natapoo • over 1 year ago
    ahhh...such memories. gotta have good friends and family and let them give you lots of hugs. (serious)

  • robertnasatka

    robertnasatka • over 1 year ago
    After 5+ years in a relationship I had to back out, and it was the hardest thing I've ever done. Since then I've had my heart broken.... but I still believe in myself. And I still wear my heart on my sleeve... sometimes messy yet always real

  • BrenndonKnox

    BrenndonKnox • over 1 year ago
    ...oyyyyy